I was in high school and I have a major crush on this Chinese guy. I don't have his class or know who he is. I only see him walking with his friends during break time which is only 10 minutes a day. I like him because he's super cute to me.
Long story short, I wrote a short letter telling him that I like him if he's interested or not, to let me know. It took a couple of days to receive a letter back from him.
"I'm not into relationship right now".
I don't know if I'm just ugly to him or he's being real, but the rejection still hurts. When a girl get rejected, it makes her feel very ugly. She has no hope in dating for a while, that guy is all she has on her mind.
He was the very first and only guy I ask out in my entire life, and I got rejected too. I took the risk to ask him out because he was worth it to me. His look was worth it.
I don't feel so bad now because I wasn't the top best looking girl in school. I can't dress or look nice like all the other girls, so I'm not surprise I got rejected. I was a total rejection written all over, if I have a time machine I would stop it from happening. Tell my own self, "Look at you,".
But you're different Hamster, you know who this girl is. You guys are friends. You get to see and talk to her personally. Not have a crush from afar. You have the choice to work your way up to a relationship waiting for her to gain interest in you, or just tell her now or tomorrow that you like her.
But you have to keep in mind, if you take too long, another guy might swept her away any day. Time is precious, if she likes or will like you , she will accept your love. If she doesn't want to be with you, you should be able to see that somehow. The answer is there, but are you willing to accept the truth?
Now, to answer your question. You get nervous because you're afraid of looking stupid in front of her so you chose to remain quiet. You're afraid the real you might be a turn off to her. But if there is ever a relationship between you and her later, you really can't be fake. The best way you're suppose to go at it is breathe, calm down, and be yourself. Start by asking her about her days and ask question about things she enjoy doing. By knowing the person she is, helps you doing things she likes to do or hear. Of course if she said she hates cat, you're not going to talk about your favorite cat of the day.
Be nice, everybody loves that. Just go pass the nervous part, girls likes intelligent guy that can carry a conversation. You can't expect her to do all the talking, let her get to know you too. Why would any girl like a guy she has no clue how he is? If you're going to be quiet, she might as well go read a book alone.
